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Motivation – What Yours?

I’ve been pondering the meaning of the word MOTIVATION.

What motivates an F1 driver to risk their life to drive a car fast, or an athlete to push that bit harder in training? What gets a working mum/mom through her more than hectic day or gets a disabled person out of bed in the morning?  We might say that they are all Motivated but is this the same thing for each of them?

Certainly we can group motivators into categories, for example the F1 driver and the Athlete may both be driven by their competitive need to be the best, but the athlete may also want to be the fittest and the driver the fastest. The mother may be motivated by income / career or the desire to be the best mother in the world & the disabled person by the need to prove everyone wrong.

This one word seems to cover a whole world of thoughts and feelings, all of them different in each of us.

Clearly, we all have intricate and different needs or desires we need to acknowledge, in order to be able to switch our motivation ON.  Finding them, is not always easy because we also like to feel good about our motivators and the truth is, they are not always things we will admit to.

Sometimes our motivation is in conflict with our morals. 

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Families And Surviving Them.

I’m often asked how I find topics to write about or what inspires me to sit down and blog?

Well first off, I am naturally a very inquisitive person and when something catches my eye I have to dig deeper, but also I know who I am and have a strong set of values which are constantly on guard. If I see something that concerns or offends those values, then I have to speak out and what better way to do it than to blog to the universe, well those of you in mine anyway. 🙂

(You may notice I get on ‘MY SOAP BOX’ over many different issues.:)

Today I want to blog about Family Relationships!  

The reason being, many of you out there, have been coming to me of late with problems relating to struggles within your families and while I would urge you to get professional assistance, I realise many of you find it extremely difficult to ask for help.

Now its proJohn Cleese Families and how to survive them With Robin Skinnerbably no secret that I am a strong believer in doing what ever you need to in order to keep families united, but sometimes, that can be easier said than done. AND sometimes it’s not in the best interest of all.

So how do we know if it’s a problem we should work through or is it time to let go?

The myriad of different relationships within a family, means there is NO easy or one answer to this. Which is why we have so much difficulty. There are all sorts of emotions & habits involved that simply make it a complex and diverse situation and often entangled  throughout the extended family. 

When studying Psychology, I found this book by Dr Skynner and Comedian John Cheese (of Monty Python fame) to be particularly helpful, funny and insightful.


Its ease of read should help you as it delves into how couples work, how they adjust to marriage and children, how children can grow or how they can be destroyed emotionally. AND most importantly, how to develop healthy relationships and families.

So for those of you who are unable or uncomfortable getting professional help from a therapist or coach, I would suggest you get a copy of this book and start there.

  • Its EASY reading
  • its Funny
  • Its Family therapy for the layperson.

By learning why we behave as we do (during which you may have to go on a journey of self discovery), you will get to the route of your problems. You can then start to unravel the complex life that is the Family, and you will be more able to chart a course for success.

Much Love

Coach Lin xx

As always, let me know if I can help!

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“How Can Coaching Help Me?”

This is a question I hear often from callers to my App Help Line, it’s usually one of the first things people ask. Some hImageave tried counselling or a therapist in the past and cannot see how coaching may differ or get them results.

“Dont we need to be face to face?”   –  Is the next question, usually followed by

How do I know if you are any good?”  So here are a few answers :-

Coaching differs from other forms of therapy in several very important ways.

Coaching is not NOT about your past, it’s about moving forward, so coaches do not spend lots of time trying to identify psychological problems or to diagnose conditions.  We may need a general idea of what has happened or of who you are, so we have a better idea of what has already been tried and what was successful or not.  We also do NOT write prescriptions or diagnose any conditions, ever!  We are not here to label or judge you but to assist you in your endeavour or aid you to solve your problem.

Coaches use carefully crafted questions and fine tuned listening skills to help you find your own answers.  We do not tell you what to do or how to do it, we guide you to your own solutions.  This way, as a plan of action unfolds, it is likely to succeed because YOU are the one mapping it out.  A coach then helps you to keep on track or adjust your plan as necessary.

We do not need to be able to see you to help you. In fact I find it better to have voice only sessions with my clients as this enables me to HEAR the things that arent being said, better. Subtle tones in a voice or hesitation in answers, can mean a lot to a trained coach and this gives me an indication of what questions need to be asked next. Asking the right questions is a huge part of being a good coach. 


So how do you know, if I am a good coach or indeed the right coach for you?

Well you can goggle me or check out my website, where there is a lot of information about me and some client testimonials.  If you need more go to my Cancer Blog, but ultimately it’s probably a trial and error situation. If you are not happy after the first session, then you do not need to do more.  I do not require my clients to pay upfront for weeks or months in advance, and I also will refund you if you are truly unhappy (although I have never had to do this yet).  I have also found that coaching can be successful in just a few sessions, with the average being around 6. Not the months on end that many seem to feel is needed.  I will also allow pay as you go coaching sessions so you don’t have to pre book your time months in advance. As long as we can find a slot when you need it, you’re in.

So to recap:- YOU GETManOnCell

  • No judgment or character assignation
  • Help to find your own Answers
  • Convenient, just pick up the phone, IM or Skype.
  • Usually does not take months to achieve success
  • Can use Pay As You Go no need to pre schedule
  • Client Testimonials for piece of mind
  • First session refundable, if not happy.

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