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Life Coaching

How to Leave the Past Behind!

It is not uncommon for people to turn to a life coach for help in moving forward because they feel stuck and unable to motivate themselves.  More often than not their current impasse is rooted in an incident in their past and it is anchoring them emotionally to that reality.

The first thing we will have to work on together, is identifying that root cause and finding a way to free the negative emotional ties to that event.  Most will know what it is but simply can’t let it go.  It’s a nagging feeling of hurt, anger or humiliation, which at the time was powerful enough to imprint on them to such an extent, it’s always near the surface ready to colour the current situation.

As humans we forget most of our daily thoughts, we would go insane if we did not, however when its attached to a powerful feeling, it can stay with us…..we remember events that have strong feelings attached, the most.

So we need to change HOW WE FEEL about that negative event.

  • Initially I might ask a client WHY they feel they need to let go of this?  Knowing your reasons for needing to free yourself of this anchor, is an important motivator.
  • Then HOW would you be different, if you no longer had this negative feeling holding on to you and your decisions?
  • Followed by WHAT will it be like to live FREE of this?


Once you can identify the above, it is much easier to start to implement the more practical daily steps towards a more positive emotional you.


Coach Lin

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How Do I Find The Right Partner?

So many times in my coaching career have I been asked :-

“How do I find the Right Partner? Where do I look and how do I know when its the right one?”

My answer is always the same – Continue reading “How Do I Find The Right Partner?”

Why Super Woman Must Die!

YES you read that right, its time for Super-Woman to disappear forever!

I am sitting here, a 59 year old #Life Coach, #Cancer #Survivor and wondering to myself, how the hell I get through to all the young women out there in their 30’s and 40’s who are trying to be Super-Woman?  I personally know lots of them and in most cases they are all chasing the illusion that they can indeed be Super Woman and that they can indeed have it all…….which of course it total rubbish!

How do I know its rubbish?

Continue reading “Why Super Woman Must Die!”

Are You Worth It?

A question we rarely ask ourselves but we often make life decisions based on our perception of this.  We rush headlong on with our life, unhappy and miserable, wanting to change it but never really committing to making a change…………..why? Continue reading “Are You Worth It?”

Bell Lets Talk – Canada Mental Health Day

Head to your social media sights today everyone because its Bell Canada’s Mental Health Day and Bell will donate money for every share of their posts.

#BellLetsTalk #depression

I too am slashing my rates for you guys out there :-


How Cancer Led Me To My Life’s Purpose!

Why & How I became a Life Coach & What I like about it?

Well firstly I love helping people, and seeing them smile, its as simple as that!

I love the friendships that grow as trust in me builds. I love the feeling of accomplishment when my clients succeed!  The money is not what its about for me, the warm sense of satisfaction and inspiration I get from YOU, can be payment in itself sometimes.

Put simply I LOVE MY JOB!

However I was not born a coach, it was not my occupation until 2010 and I came to it via a very unexpected root……………Breast CANCER! Continue reading “How Cancer Led Me To My Life’s Purpose!”

Never be too grown up to play! 

How many time in your life have you been told to ‘Grow UP!’ or indeed how many times have you said those words……and what do we mean by this? 

Clearly its a comment on behaviour that is seen as ‘child like’ or ‘immature’ in the eyes of the sayer……..but is it? To them perhaps the actions of the accused are seen to be unacceptable but do they have the right to judge that? Probably not, because even the saying of this indicates that person too may need to heed their own advice.

So what does ‘Growing up’ really mean?  Continue reading “Never be too grown up to play! “

Are You Selfish?

Are you SELFISH?  And is this a bad thing?

I am sure most of you would agree that we think of selfish people in a bad way, in fact it is often a complaint I hear from clients about their partners behaviour. We can attribute many qualities into the word selfish, such as inconsiderate, arrogance, self obsessed; generally words that we would not want to be used about ourselves.

So to be thought ‘selfish’ is not something we generally want! 

And this is where I often come up against resistance when working with clients, because at the route of much unhappiness, is the feeling of no control & lack of confidence, caused by a deeply ingrained need not to be a selfish person.  And in the case of girls and women, this gets amplified by the role of care-giver we are encouraged to play from early in life.  We give up our own views and desires to appear generous, kind or a team player so as to avoid the selfish tag.

So why do I consider this to be a problem? Continue reading “Are You Selfish?”


What do we mean when we say ‘Life’s a Beach!”


I guess it can mean many different things to different people but for me I think it represents a connection back to our roots. There is a soothing sense of well being when I sit watching the never ending rolling of the sea as it breaks relentlessly against the shoreline. As my busy mind lets go of the multitude of thoughts all vying for my attention and my body settles in the the rhythm of the waves, I find a peace that is embracing & very welcome.

I feel connected to our planet, in a way I don’t anywhere else!

From this serene and content perspective my body heals & my mind becomes focused, not confused. Problems find solutions easily and life regains the balance it needs.

What does it mean to you?

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