I am sitting here, a 59 year old #Life Coach, #Cancer #Survivor and wondering to myself, how the hell I get through to all the young women out there in their 30’s and 40’s who are trying to be Super-Woman? I personally know lots of them and in most cases they are all chasing the illusion that they can indeed be Super Woman and that they can indeed have it all…….which of course it total rubbish!
A question we rarely ask ourselves but we often make life decisions based on our perception of this. We rush headlong on with our life, unhappy and miserable, wanting to change it but never really committing to making a change…………..why? Continue reading “Are You Worth It?” →
Today is a very special day for me, it has been 15 years since I awoke in hospital to hear the words “Im sorry Mrs Elliott but the lump was malignant, you have cancer”!
As I sit here on my Balcony in Mexico I am allowing myself what is now a rare reflection back over the journey from Feb 8th 2001 until now.
Those who know me well, know it has been a hard fought 15 years, taking my husband and I places we had not wanted to go. From healthy, fit and active to crippling pain and disablement. I say it took us both because Mark was always there with me, never complaining, always supporting and as I was forced to give up activity after activity, so did he.
Enduring the horrific treatments however awful, was not the worst part of this journey, it was the devastation caused by them that left me in agony, no longer able to live life as I wanted. Continue reading “Celebrating a 15 year Battle” →
Well firstly I love helping people, and seeing them smile, its as simple as that!
I love the friendships that grow as trust in me builds. I love the feeling of accomplishment when my clients succeed! The money is not what its about for me, the warm sense of satisfaction and inspiration I get from YOU, can be payment in itself sometimes.
However I was not born a coach, it was not my occupation until 2010 and I came to it via a very unexpected root……………Breast CANCER! Continue reading “How Cancer Led Me To My Life’s Purpose!” →
I GAVE MYSELF CANCER
To live a fully functional, fun filled life of our dreams, we need to be healthy. Without our health there is no balance to life, the scales are tipped heavily towards struggle.
I know because my ‘scales plunged’ when at the age of 44, Cancer entered MY LIFE.
I survived YES but at a cost; my physical body can no longer do what I want of it and when I can, there is always pain and then more pain. I often am unable to travel; have to back out of plans and can loose whole days to the pain.
What I thought would be my future, no longer applies.
I am however adaptive and am thriving in a different and more sedate way. But this took much time and don’t let the courageous spirit fool you! NO one, wants to have to deal with or fight through, a serious health issue or learn to live with a chronic problem.
We DO, but not by choice and however brave and well balanced we may seem………it’s always a struggle…..and was not a part of our dreams or life goals.
SO when I say to you, that looking after your health is the first step towards the dreams and goals you wish to achieve, towards that life you have planned for yourself, believe me, i know!
Accidents happen over which we have no choice but diseases like Cancer are not accidents, they occur because our body was too weak to fight it off. Because we allowed the stress and pace of our lives to deplete us and Cancer got its chance. This can apply to most chronic illness. One may be genetically predisposed to get a certain disease but it will only manifest, if you allow your mind and body to become overrun by stress hormones and lack of good nutrition.
WE MUST TAKE RESPONSIBILITY no one gives you these health issues, except you! This is why I say “I gave myself Cancer!”
Granted, there are some things over which YOU have no control, environmental toxins or background radiation levels to name a couple but are you doing anything about those that are within your control? Have you removed all toxic chemicals from your home? Have you started cooking fresh unprocessed foods again? Do you take the stairs or walk to the store? Are you taking good quality Vitamins? The list goes on.
Now my intent with this blog was not to talk about myself and or lecture but to impart to you just how very important your health is. We tend not to think of it until we have a problem. I know I didn’t ……i ate a good diet and exercised alot and thought that was enough…..it wasn’t! To be the first person in my family to get Breast Cancer, is not an accolade I’m proud of, I assure you.
In the 13 years since that fateful day, I have read and leant much and now believe we absolutely NEED to ease the stress in our lives in any way we can. We cannot rely on our governments or doctors, their interests are faulty at best. This is something we each have to do for ourselves, to evaluate where we are and where we are heading. Correcting a course is not always easy but its a damn sight easier, when it’s not enforced as mine was, when options can very quickly, become limited!
We also need to eat organically AND supplement our food with good nutrients and vitamins* So as to give our body and mind what it requires to function with optimal health. And with good health, comes good sleep, good decisions and the chance of actually living that well balanced life of your dreams.
You owe it to yourself and your family to be Physically & Mentally healthy enough to reach for and make those dreams come true!!
I write this today from the Mexican Riviera Maya to where recent events in my life have led me and as I sit here typing, I am contemplating yet another change in my life. Partly out of necessity but also another step towards a life of more balance and more importantly of Health…..because with good health you have options. Please don’t waste yours.
*Even organic food can be lacking in nutrients, as the very soil is no longer as rich as it used to be.
I don’t usually blog about on here about things related to my cancer site but for this product I am making an exception. Why? Well because it is not only cancer patients this can help but all menopausal or peri-menopausal women out there and it’s too good not to share.
I know many of you are aware I had Breast Cancer 12 years ago but what you might not know, is that when the doctors chemically shut down your ovaries, throwing you into a forced, sudden and in my case early menopause, life becomes a menopause nightmare! Plus we are not allowed to take any of the drugs natural or otherwise that may help. So believe me when I say, I KNOW all about the worst hot flushes/flashes going.
Truly, when you are getting out of bed several times a night to go out side and LIE naked in the SNOW.… then you know things are really bad.
People laugh, they tell jokes, I even do it myself but the overwhelming desire to strip off all your clothes 3 or 4 times an hour, really is no joking matter! The sleepless nights, coupled with the totally embarrassment felt when your brain also goes into complete and utter spaz mode, leaves you exhausted and desperate.
I have now been in this living hell for 12.5 years, since chemo plunged me into my nightmare, from which I will probably never get reprieved. So after all this time, to come across a product that is natural, effective and actually does what it says, is enough to get me jumping up and down for pure JOY!
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Just pop it in the freezer and then its ready to keep you cool, calm and collected for 12 hours!!
Oh & just so you know. Yes I am an affiliate for coldfront, so I do get commission when you purchase from my site but that did not affect my testing or review of this product. I am blogging about this because I know how you feel and this is the first thing I have tried that is not harmful & actually WORKS!
See You On The Bright Side
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So I need to apologise to all my readers for my absence the past few months.
Things in my life were becoming very hectic. I have several serious health issues to deal with, My youngest son was getting ready to move with his family to the other side of the continent and my work load was becoming stressful. ……………SO I took some time off.
I stepped back from it all and took some time out to reevaluate how to move forward in a more balanced way.
Well, I want to show you that even though I am a life coach and ‘know better’, it is all to easy for life to spiral out of control.
The last time that happened to me, I ended up with Breast Cancer. so now I try to be more aware. However, 12 years later, I was once again letting things drift into chaos and I was back on the cancer merry-go-round of poking, prodding and specialist appointments.
So after a few days rest and more rounds of medical tests, I finally sat down and asked myself “what would I say to a client in this situation?”
One of my particular ‘hangups’ has been focused around my part-time tech job. Even though my Coaching Practice is running well, I was finding it hard to quit this part-time corporate job: so I decided I needed to start with this and ask myself WHY ? After much soul-searching I came to realise that I was afraid. I have been dealing with Cancer and its fallout for 12 years, I realised I was afraid that if I quit, no one else would ever hire me.
It was only when I asked myself why that frightened me and what I actually liked about this job, that I realised the absurdity of these feelings. I had not been happy in that work in a long time, in fact I resented the hours I was working in the role. Plus, I did not want or have any intention of ever working in a corporate job again. It was so far from what I wanted, that the fear of not having it, was ludicrous.
Boy did I ever feel better the next day! A huge burden was lifted and I felt free to move on in my life with enthusiasm and purpose, doing what I love, which is coaching others.
I am still having tests and still have many medical issues ahead of me but I feel so much lighter to have relieved myself of this burden. The fear I thought I would feel is not there, not in the slightest. I now feel I can take on what ever obstacles come my way in terms of heath issues, with renewed vigor and I know success.
I am also so very happy to be back doing what I love to do……………..blog and coach others to find the same great feeling when you know, you are in tune with your life’s purpose.
See you on the bright side 🙂
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