It is not uncommon for people to turn to a life coach for help in moving forward because they feel stuck and unable to motivate themselves. More often than not their current impasse is rooted in an incident in their past and it is anchoring them emotionally to that reality.
The first thing we will have to work on together, is identifying that root cause and finding a way to free the negative emotional ties to that event. Most will know what it is but simply can’t let it go. It’s a nagging feeling of hurt, anger or humiliation, which at the time was powerful enough to imprint on them to such an extent, it’s always near the surface ready to colour the current situation.
As humans we forget most of our daily thoughts, we would go insane if we did not, however when its attached to a powerful feeling, it can stay with us…..we remember events that have strong feelings attached, the most.
So we need to change HOW WE FEEL about that negative event.
- Initially I might ask a client WHY they feel they need to let go of this? Knowing your reasons for needing to free yourself of this anchor, is an important motivator.
- Then HOW would you be different, if you no longer had this negative feeling holding on to you and your decisions?
- Followed by WHAT will it be like to live FREE of this?
Once you can identify the above, it is much easier to start to implement the more practical daily steps towards a more positive emotional you.